personal communication skills

What surprised me most is the anxiety inventory test. I do think I am very nervous and not capable of speaking in front of many people like in meetings. I also feel I lose all the logic and don’t know how to organize my language, my brain in in blank at those time, and my heart beats very quickly, I feel very worried. But my colleague and my husband think I have low anxiety inventory, they think I can express myself very well in public. This is very important for me to know because I am responsible for the marketing and communications of the school, there must be some situations that I have to speak out.

For the listening skills, I felt I have good listening skills, but sometimes, I overestimate my capability. Sometimes I really want to fix things or make things happen soon instead of caring people’s thoughts and emotions. This is another insight this week. I would like to slow down and understand people better.

improving communication skills

There is no same leaf in the world. I do communicate differently with people. My value, my belief are mine, and my words and behaviors are different from others.

I want to develop my communication skills with others in few areas as following:

1.                   Continue to learn knowledge about their cultures, background, hobbies, etc. to understand people’s preference in communication. Sometimes,

2.                   Appreciate the differences, be tolerant of uncertainty and to avoid knee-jerk negative evaluations of others. Sometimes, if you face strangers or uncertain situations, we may be afraid of control or no idea how to be with them. It is good that we take it easy and enjoy the uncertainty.

3.                   Develop communication skills, especially in how to ask good questions, and listening skills. Asking good questions is a crucial skill of getting information, listening skills make the others feel you are on the same ground as them, and we invite people to work with us friendly.

TV show

I watched a film on TV called “Xue Hua Mi Shan”(Snow Flower) with sound turning off, I saw the actress Li Bingbing was talking something with a foreigner, they sttod very close to each other face to face, they looked not so friendly with each other, I thought they are lovers quarreling. When I turned on the sound, they were talking about the man’s girlfriend, and Li Bingbing is a good friend of his girlfriend.

It would be more correct if I have seen the show before.

Competent Communicator

This assignment let me think about two colleagues. They are men, one is 50 and the other is 51 years. Let’s call them A and B.

Both of them are very talkative, they smile to people when they talk. But they are very different. A always talks thing he concerns and likes, no matter if the listener likes it or not. He can talk very long about one simple thing, and make people feel very bored. The other one is also very talkative, but he knows to encourage listener to give response, and tell the listener their idea is great. His tone always change when he talks, and he is humorous. B is obviously a better communicator than A. The colleagues like to be with him and avoid to be with A.

I would like to learn the communication ability from B, especially his humor and how to make people relaxed.